After two adoptions, I wouldn’t consider myself an expert. I would however, consider myself an advocate. A supporter. A campaigner. Sometimes I’m even the woman holding back “What is wrong with all of you? Get off your couch and away from your flat screen and go adopt a kid!” But that’s not very nice, or accurate, so I keep that crazy girl in my head.
Adoption is part of God’s heart. He has adopted all of us and calls us his sons and daughters.
So when I see attempted adoptions fail, my heart aches. Twice in the past few months have wonderful people felt led by God to bring children into their homes, only to have the situation not end in an adoption. In fact, it ended terribly. The experience was so epic, so overwhelming, that neither family is sure they will pursue another child.
At the end of this difficult journey, both families felt relieved, but with that comes a sense of failure. Of disappointment.
And the question “Where is God in all of this?”
It’s the same question I asked in China as I watched a boy be returned to his orphanage after 10 days with an adoptive family, who wept with defeat and flew home alone.
Sometimes the answer to that question is simply obedience.
The willingness to say Pick Me God! I’ll do this ugly and messy thing in life and then when it ends, I’m willing to be broken, hurt, confused, all because you asked me to. Your ways are higher than my own.
Adoption does not make us holy in the eyes of God. Obedience does.
Keep listening. Don’t be discouraged. You did a good thing, as you felt led by God. Not everything God asks us to do get rounded out in a sunset ending.
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.
Jesus says the poor will always be with us. We are not on this earth to eradicate poverty. That power is not within us. Only Jesus can set this world back on its original course.
We are here to become more like Jesus every day. And yes, that does mean doing good. Often. Always. Forever. Whenever God asks, no matter the outcome.